The World is Full of Ignorant, Judgmental Pricks, and I Would Gladly Hand Their Asses to Them if I Had the Energy and Time

To The Universe:

Why did you have to bring this fucked-up, homophobic, anti-adoption, racist, anti-ART manifesto to my attention today?  I don't care if it is by a columnist who is also a stand-up comedian (she calls herself "Comic Mom"), it is SOOOO not funny. 

Universe, how can you expect me not to leap into action when she says stuff like "...ask yourself how often you’ve capitulated to the rhetoric of this brave new world, how often you’ve called someone who’s never given birth and passed along genes a mother, or how often you’ve looked at an Asian child with two people who are clearly not her parents and believed that they are family."

Her thesis is so repulsive, so full of shit, that I have a gushing nosebleed from the stench.  Her position:  Are you infertile?  Well, suck it up.  Don't seek medical treatment and certainly don't adopt. You're not meant to have children because God doesn't want you to.  And I don't give a shit about the kids whose birthparents don't want to raise or can't raise them.  I offer no solutions or help for them.  Besides, what do I care? I'm fertile and have my kids!

This article is so ignorant, so misguided, that I feel compelled to give her a serious blog bitchslapping. But alas, just two days ago I published a long, embittered post arguing for infertility insurance coverage.  And before that was the whole Indiana situation. I do not have the energy, nor time, to rant about this as well.  I can only work up the necessary furor to write a diatribe every two weeks or so.

Why, Universe, why did you drop this in my lap today?  I am so very tired and I need to get some work done.

And why, WHY, did you let me find a second article by this same profoundly inhumane woman claiming those bitchy career women wouldn't need IVF if they were less busy (due to their careers and all) and had sex more often?

I hope you will be more considerate of my time and energy next time.

Regards,
Susan

[Thanks to Laura Christianson's Exploring Adoption blog  and JenUte of CHEW for the link. I know many of you saw it some days ago, but I just found it today.]

Comments

[Emily]

Amen!

I don't have the energy to do treatment and ward off these imbeciles. I loathe, "I don't care about you because I got mine" attitude. Her arguments, if you can call them that, are just full of shit and completely unlogical -- to even the most pedestrian (that would be me).

I always have to laugh when people tell me I brought my infertility on myself because of my career. That's such a joke since I've never had a career, just a job. Nothing more than a job, my whole life. We don't have to talk about the real cause why a 36 year old woman (at the time) who was healthy suddenly lost the ability to reproduce -- like, all the toxic assholes in the world like her that unfortunately crossed my path and made my life miserable. I escaped, just unfortantely, not in enough time because I didn't get married until I was 37.

[DD]

Here's something I found from her "bio", which she herself wrote as Tricia Shore: "Bitter? Would you be bitter for being separated from your family for over 34 years? ...Oh, and Tricia has almost forgotten—she is supposed to be extremely grateful, as all adoptees should be, for having been separated from her family for all those years. Gee, thanks!"

Bitter...Bitter, table for one.

I'd say she has definitely got issues. She unfairly and incorrectly relates her pathetic existance to what all adoptees should feel. Don't let her take up any more of your precious time and energy than she already has, you've got way more deserving issues to attend to.

[swannie]

Ah yes, what would this woman make of cases like this one that's being reported today?

http://www.wkyc.com/news/news_article.aspx?storyid=42212

Sigh.

[Jenn]

I was going to write her a little love note, but I thought, you know, what's the point? She OBVIOUSLY has some issues regarding her own adoption. And the world must always be as she has experienced it. I just don't think it's worth my energy to try to educate her.

[zarqa]

It pisses me off but only fleetingly as it is clear that she is channelling unresolved issues around her own adoption into a diatribe pitted against people whose desires and goals she can't possibly have the slightest clue about. Plus her writing is so clunky that her point, if she has one, gets lost in the clunkiness. I wouldn't worry about her.

[patricia]

She is a sad, pathetic woman. PATHETIC. Sounds like she had crappy parents to me, and is taking out a crappy childhood on anyone who has had a positive adoption experience.

Is she trying to say that my dad (adoptive) is not really my dad? That some guy who was ashamed to tell anyone that I existed, even after I met him at the age of 29, is my family? Well, she can just fuck right off...

[heleen]

I hope her children will be gay, and infertile. (They probably won't have the courage to tell her though) Not to punish her for having such pathetic opinons, but to give her a chance to become more compassionate. Like a real christian.

[Karen]

God, you rock so hard it hurts. LOVE this rant.

[akeeyu]

Yeah, that woman has problems with a capital C-R-A-Z-Y.

She thinks women are "too busy to have sex" and do IVF instead? Because IVF takes like, what, five, ten minutes, tops?

[mm]

Now that is one psychotic BITCH if I've ever seen one.

[Nico]

I love how not only are we choosing to use ART because we're too busy to have sex, we're also going to have live-in nannys so that we don't have to look after the result of ART. Because we're all so busy.

And how IVF equates to instant children.

I think it's horrible that people can spew such hate and poison. It makes me really sad.

[Tania]

She sounds like a certifiable nut case not worthy of your time.

So I suppose when one of the children she conceived comes down with a fatal illness, she will refuse all treatment for them because obviously God wants them to die.

Dumbass.

[Lynnette]

Yeah, that bitch made my day today, too. UGH!

[Karinsamira]

Hi Susan!

While I agree that this woman says a lot of hurtful and wrong things in her article, I kind of get her point re some of the adoption stuff. She seems to have had a hard time with her own ado, and she is as entitled to feel pissed and hurt and cheated by this as we infertiles are about our IF.Adoption CAN be a great experience, no doubt about this, but like everything else, it can go south seriously.I have lived through a failed one, which has caused some permanent health damage, so I feel that I know where this aouthor comes from. Plus, I do agree with her that at least with an ado from a third world country, there are ethical issues such as you never know if the birthmom was not really forced to give up that child.

[akeeyu]

You know, I had a failed marriage, which was pretty unpleasant and really messed with my head, but it doesn't mean I go around crusading against marriage as an institution. Nor does it entitle me to spout off to newlyweds about how they're making the biggest mistake of their lives and declare that all marriage should be outlawed.

Certainly, everybody is entitled to their feelings, but the fact that this woman thinks that her experience alone is the universal truth and should be used as the last word on adoption? It's, um, egotistical on a really mindboggling scale, and more than just a wee bit nuts.