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Nov 14, 2005



Hey, I'm still here, on the edge of my seat, green with envy over the Bay Area thing.


You are hilarious! I check in almost every day, so I'm one of the faithful that your Typepad counter counts.

I get hundreds of readers per day, and only a few comments from my loyal followers. What's up with that? Huh? I guess I have voyeurs in my midst, but am too uninspiring to prompt the majority of them to speak. Oh well. What can you do.


I'm here! And I suck at guessing. I'll just wait for the next (non-boring! You are never boring!) installment...


I'm always lurking, both here and over at wessel's. I just don't have anything profound to say lately.

Um, the last time we checked in it sounded like you were leaning towards adoption in Korea. Donor eggs you said were a no. For some reason I'm not convinced it's Korean adoption.. I'm probably going to go with donor embryos.

And like akeeyu, I'm envious of the Bay area gathering and wish there was something similar on the East Coast.


Woo hoo! Hello Anyone in? Popping in for a cuppa and to hear the latest news...ooh a cliff hanger? goody!


Bonnie, I think there are East Coast gatherings. I know there is one in Washington DC on Dec 28. Check out the


Ugh. My comment on my own blog got eaten.
Bonnie, check out the Vacant Uterus for info on the Washington DC gathering on Dec. 28:



I'm an RSS reader delurking to say don't forget about your invisible RSS readers! We're here even if we don't show up on your numbers. And waiting with baited breath


I'm going take what's behind door number one. Show me...Shiny, new clinic! And yes it is cruel. Tell meeee.


I'm still reading. I don't know which step you will take next, but keep us posted. Good luck.


I'm not even going to guess because with my luck of late I'll get it right, and you'd feel compelled to send me those useless books.

But I will be waiting with anticipation. And I want the details on the Bay Area meeting. Please pick a great restaurant and give us all the details.


Hi zhl,
I'm coordinating the Bay Area meeting via email, to avoid trolls. Send me an email and I'll fill you in.


Oh, my serious Susan. How could you think we had abandoned YOU! Come on over the mountains to my part of the world and I got 2 regs, yes, 2, just count 'em. OK, that's enough plug for me...

I'm going to guess #4 or #1, or maybe...(thoughtful contemplation) BOTH #4 AND #1! It's one of those trick questions, isn't it!?


Um, I'm supposed to go and gather clues, right? So I have to go with number 5 in Korea despite the fact that you've explicitly mentioned it and therefore it's probably the wrong answer.

Btw if I'm right I don't want all those horrible books!

And btw too I also come here pretty much every day, and mostly I comment but sometimes I feel unable to say anything that seems acceptable given what you're going through and so I chicken out.


I'm still here, too. I have no freaking clue which one it is, but I can't wait to find out.


I'm going to guess (and it's a blind shot, as I have no clue!) either #1 or #5.

Donor embryos...there was an episode on CSI about that recently...it was, in true CSI fashion, freaky.

Whatever you decide...Good luck!


Still here, still checking in daily. Um. twice daily. Okay, I admit it - I really don't do much else but obssessively check my favorite blogs so I'm coming here even more than that. ;-)

So glad you've come to a decision. I'm going to guess it's #3 - that conversation sounded perfectly plausible to me.


I'll take condo in Hawaii for $1000 Bob. (I'm way partial to Hawaii)


I'm here, I'm here! Hmm. #1 or #3, I'd say.


Still here, still reading... mostly consume you through bloglines which probably doesn't register on your stats unless there is a click through to comment. Like today.

*bet your stats went up today*

Emma B

Ooh, I wanna play! I'll go for donor egg, I think.


Mmm, Korea?

I check in every day with a cup of tea and some love! Love in a cup??


Ohh! I guess donor egg in South Africa. Then I can be jealous of you meeting Tertia AND all the lovely San Fran area infertiles!


Oh, well look at YOU, Little Miss Nobody Reads My Blog Anymore! 23 comments! So there! You silly tit... STOP with even SUGGESTING that you are boring. What a load of rubbish...

Ok... so... since I'm pretty sure you've ruled out the 'Basenji in Every Window' option ... I'll say you're not deciding to opt for a childless future yet... you DID hint at Korea... so... you know... I think I'm going to go with the safe bet. But you can keep those books. (shudder)

Lut C.

I already have my own collection of IF books, so I'll just take a wild guess:

Child-free in Hawaii?

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Adoption To-Do's


    Total Expenses So Far: $21,531

    Select country (Korea) (11/14/05)

    Select agency (11/17/05)

    Tell our families

    Receive preliminary application

    Preliminary App filed (12/5/05):

    • Fill in application
    • Photo of us, photo of house
    • Write medical statement, elaborating on treatment for depression
    • Line up four non-relative references
    • One copy of tax returns from past three years
    • Pay $200 fee
    • Notarized adoption services agreement $10
    • Fedex to Agency $15

    Receive Big App (12/15/05)

    Receive Korea Adoption Guidebook

    Home Study Paperwork: (1/19/06)

    • S: Complete "Personal Data" form with 67 essay questions
    • S: 1 photocopy birth certificate
    • S: Complete Authorization of Release of Information - Employer Verification
    • S: Criminal Record Statement
    • S: LiveScan fingerprint form (for State of California: criminal and child abuse index)
    • S: Schedule LiveScan fingerprinting appointments
    • S: LiveScan fingerprints done, pay $65
    • S: Medical Exam, including HIV and TB tests
    • S: Medical Report filled out by doctor
    • T: Complete 51 essay question "Personal Data" form
    • T: 1 photocopy birth certificate
    • T: Complete Authorization of Release of Information - Employer Verification
    • T: Criminal Record Statement
    • T: LiveScan fingerprint form (for State of California: criminal and child abuse index)
    • T: Schedule LiveScan fingerprinting appointments
    • T: LiveScan fingerprints done, pay $65
    • T: Medical Exam, including HIV and TB tests
    • T: Medical Report filled out by doctor
    • Complete detailed Financial Statement
    • 1 photocopy marriage license
    • Photo of baby's room
    • Map & directions to home
    • Copy all, keep for records
    • FedEx packet to agency, $15 (1/12/06)
    All 4 non-relative references return 3-page, 10-essay questionnaires directly to agency (1/28/06)

    Home Study Part 2: (4/3/2006)

    • Receive & pay invoice for home study $3066 (2/1/06)
    • Schedule social worker visits (2/10/06)
    • Childproof house (smoke detectors, fire extinguishers, outlet covers) $40
    • Social worker visit #1 (joint) (2/21/06)
    • Acceptable Medical Conditions Form (2/27/06)
    • From that details how "open" an adoption we are willing to consider  (2/27/06)
    • Social worker visit #2 (S only) (2/28/06)
    • Social worker visit #3 (T only) (2/28/06)
    • Sign up for module 1 & 2 of parenting class
    • Book travel for parenting class in Southern California
    • Modules 1 & 2 of agency parenting class (in SoCal) $500 (1/21/06)
    • Receive 2 completed, certified, notarized copies of Home Study (4/3/2006)

    Agency sends Home Study to Korea (HSTK) (4/7/2006)

    Sign up for modules 3 & 4 of agency parenting class

    Take modules 3 & 4 of agency parenting class (4/9/06)

    I-600A filed with US-CIS (Advanced Processing of Orphan Petition for Visa) (4/6/2006):

    • I-600A form
    • Copy certified Home Study
    • S: Photocopy of birth certificate
    • T: Photocopy of birth certificate
    • Photocopy of marriage license
    • Copy of most recent federal tax return
    • Proof of medical insurance
    • $545 fee + $140 for FBI fingerprints = $685
    • Cover letter
    • Copy all for records
    • Mail to US-CIS San Francisco

    FBI Fingerprinting:

    • US-CIS acknowledges receipt of I-600A (4/12/06)
    • FBI Fingerprinting appt. scheduled (different than LiveScan fingerprints)
    • FBI Fingerprinting completed, for each (4/28/06)

    Receive I-171H (Approval of I-600A) (5/11/06)

    Pick baby name

    Arrange for medical evaluation of referral

    Receive Referral (12/29/06)

    • Child's presentation letter
    • Child's information
    • Photographs
    • Medical records
    • Confidential background information

    Medical evaluation of Referral by Oakland Children's Hospital (1/10/2007)

    File Referral Acceptance Paperwork: ($140 + $12) (1/6/2007)

    • Child Information Transmittal
    • Pay invoice for $17,500
    • 3 Placement Agreements - all notarized
    • T: 4 Statements of Adoption (for child's Korean passport) - all notarized
    • 3 Travel Option forms
    • 1 Foreign Travel Release - notarized
    • T: 2 Affidavit re INS Vaccination Requirements
    • T: 2 I-864 Affidavit of Support for Immigration
    • S: 2 I-864A Contract between Sponsor and Household Member
    • Copy of entire last year tax return, with ALL attachments
    • Copy of all last year W-2 and 1099 forms
    • T: Photocopy of birth certificate (again)
    • S: Photocopy of birth certificate (again)
    • T: Copy of 2006 paystubs
    • S: Copy of 2006 paystubs
    • Photocopy of marriage license (again)
    • Photocopy everything for records
    • FedEx to agency (1/6/2007)

    Receive child's "legals" from Korea (in English & Korean): (1/22/2007)

    • Affirmation and Oath Certificate (attests these documents are true and correct)
    • Certificate of the Guardian (certifies Korean agency was guardian)
    • Statement of Guardianship (transfers guardianship from Korean agency to American agency)
    • Extract of Family Register (birth certificate equivalent)

    I-600 visa petition form filed w/ US-CIS: (1/25/2007)

    • I-600 form
    • Copy of I-171H
    • Copies of child's legals
    • Originals of child's legals, with note and SASE envelope requesting they be returned
    • Copy of child report
    • Copy of child photos
    • Copy of most recent 1040 tax form
    • Copy of I-864
    • Copy of I-864A
    • Letter with visa cable instructions
    • Fedex to US-CIS San Francisco $25

    Meanwhile, the Korean agency works away:

    • Our application is translated
    • Korean agency applies for Emigration Permit with Korean Ministry of Health and Welfare
    • Ministry approves Emigration Permit (aka "EP")
    • Agency gets I-171 (I-600 approval) cable from US Embassy in Seoul
    • Baby tested for Hepatitis B & HIV
    • Visa physical for baby
    • Submit application for baby's IR-4 Visa

    Resubmit our I-600 visa petition after US-CIS screws up (2/9/2007)

    Buy baby gear (3/17/07)

    Baby CPR & safety class (2/17/07)

    Line up a regular pediatrician (3/5/07)

    Line up a pediatric cardiologist (3/14/07)

    Investigate childcare options (3/17/07)

    Line up Daycare (5/25/07)

    Get on preschool waiting list (1/5/07)

    Setup nursery(3/19/07)

    Get life insurance for both

    Write wills with statements of guardianship wishes (both)

    Set up trust

    S: Get pre-approval family leave with HR (1/24/2007)

    Buy gifts for foster family, Korean agency staff (3/16/07)

    Make travel arrangements to Korea ($185 plus 240,000 frequent flyer miles) (3/13/07)

    Wrap-up job for a 15-week leave (3/12/07-3/16/07)

    Finalize leave plans with HR (3/15/07)

    Travel to Korea (3/19/07 - 3/25/07)

    • Meet both foster mothers (3/21/07, 3/22/07, 3/23/07)
    • In-Korea pre-flight medical exam (3/22/07)
    • Go to US Embassy in Seoul to process Class-B Waiver (acceptance of medical condition) 3/22/07
    • Get the final Visa paperwork (3/22/07)
    • Take custody of child! (3/23/07)
    • Long plane ride back to USA (3/25/07)

    USA Medical Evaluations

    • Add baby to my health insurance (3/28/07)
    • Evaluation by regular pediatrician (3/30/07)
    • US immunizations (3/30/07)
    • Evaluation by pediatric cardiologist (4/18/07)
    Receive Placement Confirmation Notice from Agency (3/28/06)

    Receive baby's Green Card in mail (4/16/07)

    Get social security number under baby's Korean Name as permanent resident (4/27/07)

    Receive post-placement packet in mail from Agency(4/15/07)

    Post-placement visits from social worker: (9/12/07)

    • Visit #1 (4/28/07)
    • Visit #2 (6/30/07)
    • Visit #3 (7/26/07)
    • Visit #4 (9/12/07)

    Create and file child "progress reports" with 8-18 photos each, for Korean agency and government, and a letter with photos for foster family (9/12/07)

    • 1-month progress report (4/28/07)
    • 3-month progress report (6/30/07)
    • 4-month progress report (7/26/07)
    • 6-month progress report (9/12/07)

    File US Physician's Examination Report with Agency (4/17/07)

    File Adoption Finalization Paperwork in our county in California (5/1/07) ($20)

    • Form ADOPT-200 (Adoption Request) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-210 (Adoption Agreement) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-215 (Adoption Order) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-230 (Adoption Expenses) (5/1/07)

    RE-File Finalization Paperwork the State changed in July '07 (ARGH!) (11/13/07)

    • Form ADOPT-210 (Adoption Agreement) (11/13/07)
    • Form ADOPT-215 (Adoption Order) (11/3/07)

    Finalize Adoption in County Court

    • Receive "Consent to Adoption" from agency (11/2/07)
    • Schedule court hearing (coming in December '07!)
    • Adoption finalization court hearing (Munchkin is now a US citizen, and his American name is now his legal name!)
    • Have a HUGE Party to celebrate!
    • Send agency/Korea copy of child's adoption decree (child is no longer considered a Korean citizen)
    • Send adoption announcements

    Secure proof of US citizenship for child:

    • Complete & file N-600 with US-CIS, pay fee
    • Receive Certificate of Citizenship
    • File passport application
    • Receive passport
    • Apply to SSA to get status changed from resident alien to citizen, SS# name changed (passport is proof)

    Start the process all over again for kid #2!