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Apr 23, 2007

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Lisa

Aww! What a beautiful baby! Thanks for sharing. So glad to hear his heart is good and healthy now. All the pain is so worth it now huh? Congrats again!

squarepeg

He is precious. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Happy endings, however they arrive, are always appreciated :)

Anne

What a cutie! I love his hair--looks like a skateboarding ramp (meant in a good way!)

My daughter is a month younger than your son, and I am also enjoying this stage, what with all the cooing, squealing, laughing, and excited wiggling of baby body parts. What a trip!

Good luck to your family! :-)

Anne

What a cutie! I love his hair--looks like a skateboarding ramp (meant in a good way!)

My daughter is a month younger than your son, and I am also enjoying this stage, what with all the cooing, squealing, laughing, and excited wiggling of baby body parts. What a trip!

Good luck to your family! :-)

Judi

Crying big tears of joy for you. Oh my goodness he is such a cutie, I cannot even begin to tell you. Finally a picture! How lucky I am to have caught it. You are positively beaming in that photo. He sounds like such a love. Enjoy every second, he'll be big before you know it.

robin

What a beautiful story and boy! Keep enjoying your time together, MOM!

erin

Thank you for sharing your story with us! Good luck as you navigate being a mommy.

korin

I didn't think i was gonna cry when I saw the pix.. but I did. i love the hair. i'm so very happy for you!

millie

Crying tears of joy as I read your story. And that pic, it's soooo awesome. Munchin's hair, your smile. So beautiful.

Jenn

So cute! I'm so happy for you.

And I think you might be right that he's just too little to show much preference. Mine started fussing a little when I left the room around 7 months or so, but didn't really prefer to be with me until recently (they are almost 9 months now).

Lut C.

He's adorable and sounds like a delightful baby!
Congratulations!

Paula

How beautiful! He's a real cutie and you look so happy together. Thanks for sharing such a wonderful picture.

Jb

beautiful story and so glad I got to see the picture!! and I think the sadness is the real grief of the last years - it was more intense for me once I had a baby - somehow that led to another, deep wave of it. And then it passed and I even enjoyed a baby shower!

Tara

awesome! congratulations!

Erin

Oh, how happy you both look together!

Megan

What a beautiful story. Like Korin, I didn't cry until I got to the picture. Munchkin is so sweet, and you are glowing.
Thank you for sharing your story with us!

Sol

Thank you for sharing the picture, such happy faces! How wonderful that your adorable child is where he belongs, right there with you and your husband.

heleen

Thanks for showing the photo, you look really lovely together.

amber

YEA! I got to see the pic! So cute and you look great too. It's so cool to see Dh being a daddy isn't it? Just melts my heart when I see Francesca and Dh together. And I love it when the scream with delight! It's music to my ears.

starfish

Holy Cow what a gorgeous baby! Those eyes! That hair! Your experience so closely resembles ours, including your statements of doing it all over again if it means ending up with your son. Sincere and heartfelt congratulations to you from someone who truly knows the impact of the experience you have just gone through.

And ditto on the attachment thing - he's too little to show preference. Ours is just starting to show it and he's almost 8 months.

Summer

Munchkin is adorable and how happy and content you look! I'm so glad I didn't miss the picture viewing window!

Cathy

Congratulations on your wonderful son (with great hair)!

Alison

My hubby and I have been following your blog for awhile, and we have been literally on the same page as you guys with our Korean adoption. Our son joined our family on 3/31/07 (DOB 8/29/06.) It was comforting to read that your son is very similar to ours in his interaction. He is a big flirt and was happy with us from the beginning. We've had him home for a little over 3 weeks and he seems to be attaching, but then he does seem to do ok with meeting new people too. It's a bit nerveracking b/c I'm always worried he's not attaching b/c he seems to like everyone. But, after reading your blog, I'm thinking and hoping that perhaps the fact that they both had such wonderful foster moms (and that they are still a bit young) perhaps eveything is just going well and we are totally lucky parents.

It is so lovely to know there are other people out there who are going through the same things, you know?

We fall in love with our son more and more everyday. Congrats on your Munchkin, who I know you feel the same way about. He is adorable! How amazing life is. :)

MLO

Dang, I didn't get to the blog till this afternoon. (And I even looked last night.)

I am so happy for you. I'm at work and had to fight hard not to start crying from your description!

I found your site when I first found out about high FSH. Now, I find I'm dealing with bilateral hydrosalpinges and cysts. I'm still early in my journey. I don't know where it will bring my husband and me, but stories like yours give me hope.

Pax,

MLO

SusanG

Dang! I missed the photo AGAIN!

Congratulations to the new family. These happy endings are so nice to hear.

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Adoption To-Do's

  • 

    Total Expenses So Far: $21,531

    Select country (Korea) (11/14/05)

    Select agency (11/17/05)

    Tell our families

    Receive preliminary application

    Preliminary App filed (12/5/05):

    • Fill in application
    • Photo of us, photo of house
    • Write medical statement, elaborating on treatment for depression
    • Line up four non-relative references
    • One copy of tax returns from past three years
    • Pay $200 fee
    • Notarized adoption services agreement $10
    • Fedex to Agency $15

    Receive Big App (12/15/05)

    Receive Korea Adoption Guidebook

    Home Study Paperwork: (1/19/06)

    • S: Complete "Personal Data" form with 67 essay questions
    • S: 1 photocopy birth certificate
    • S: Complete Authorization of Release of Information - Employer Verification
    • S: Criminal Record Statement
    • S: LiveScan fingerprint form (for State of California: criminal and child abuse index)
    • S: Schedule LiveScan fingerprinting appointments
    • S: LiveScan fingerprints done, pay $65
    • S: Medical Exam, including HIV and TB tests
    • S: Medical Report filled out by doctor
    • T: Complete 51 essay question "Personal Data" form
    • T: 1 photocopy birth certificate
    • T: Complete Authorization of Release of Information - Employer Verification
    • T: Criminal Record Statement
    • T: LiveScan fingerprint form (for State of California: criminal and child abuse index)
    • T: Schedule LiveScan fingerprinting appointments
    • T: LiveScan fingerprints done, pay $65
    • T: Medical Exam, including HIV and TB tests
    • T: Medical Report filled out by doctor
    • Complete detailed Financial Statement
    • 1 photocopy marriage license
    • Photo of baby's room
    • Map & directions to home
    • Copy all, keep for records
    • FedEx packet to agency, $15 (1/12/06)
    All 4 non-relative references return 3-page, 10-essay questionnaires directly to agency (1/28/06)

    Home Study Part 2: (4/3/2006)

    • Receive & pay invoice for home study $3066 (2/1/06)
    • Schedule social worker visits (2/10/06)
    • Childproof house (smoke detectors, fire extinguishers, outlet covers) $40
    • Social worker visit #1 (joint) (2/21/06)
    • Acceptable Medical Conditions Form (2/27/06)
    • From that details how "open" an adoption we are willing to consider  (2/27/06)
    • Social worker visit #2 (S only) (2/28/06)
    • Social worker visit #3 (T only) (2/28/06)
    • Sign up for module 1 & 2 of parenting class
    • Book travel for parenting class in Southern California
    • Modules 1 & 2 of agency parenting class (in SoCal) $500 (1/21/06)
    • Receive 2 completed, certified, notarized copies of Home Study (4/3/2006)

    Agency sends Home Study to Korea (HSTK) (4/7/2006)

    Sign up for modules 3 & 4 of agency parenting class

    Take modules 3 & 4 of agency parenting class (4/9/06)

    I-600A filed with US-CIS (Advanced Processing of Orphan Petition for Visa) (4/6/2006):

    • I-600A form
    • Copy certified Home Study
    • S: Photocopy of birth certificate
    • T: Photocopy of birth certificate
    • Photocopy of marriage license
    • Copy of most recent federal tax return
    • Proof of medical insurance
    • $545 fee + $140 for FBI fingerprints = $685
    • Cover letter
    • Copy all for records
    • Mail to US-CIS San Francisco

    FBI Fingerprinting:

    • US-CIS acknowledges receipt of I-600A (4/12/06)
    • FBI Fingerprinting appt. scheduled (different than LiveScan fingerprints)
    • FBI Fingerprinting completed, for each (4/28/06)

    Receive I-171H (Approval of I-600A) (5/11/06)

    Pick baby name

    Arrange for medical evaluation of referral

    Receive Referral (12/29/06)

    • Child's presentation letter
    • Child's information
    • Photographs
    • Medical records
    • Confidential background information

    Medical evaluation of Referral by Oakland Children's Hospital (1/10/2007)

    File Referral Acceptance Paperwork: ($140 + $12) (1/6/2007)

    • Child Information Transmittal
    • Pay invoice for $17,500
    • 3 Placement Agreements - all notarized
    • T: 4 Statements of Adoption (for child's Korean passport) - all notarized
    • 3 Travel Option forms
    • 1 Foreign Travel Release - notarized
    • T: 2 Affidavit re INS Vaccination Requirements
    • T: 2 I-864 Affidavit of Support for Immigration
    • S: 2 I-864A Contract between Sponsor and Household Member
    • Copy of entire last year tax return, with ALL attachments
    • Copy of all last year W-2 and 1099 forms
    • T: Photocopy of birth certificate (again)
    • S: Photocopy of birth certificate (again)
    • T: Copy of 2006 paystubs
    • S: Copy of 2006 paystubs
    • Photocopy of marriage license (again)
    • Photocopy everything for records
    • FedEx to agency (1/6/2007)

    Receive child's "legals" from Korea (in English & Korean): (1/22/2007)

    • Affirmation and Oath Certificate (attests these documents are true and correct)
    • Certificate of the Guardian (certifies Korean agency was guardian)
    • Statement of Guardianship (transfers guardianship from Korean agency to American agency)
    • Extract of Family Register (birth certificate equivalent)

    I-600 visa petition form filed w/ US-CIS: (1/25/2007)

    • I-600 form
    • Copy of I-171H
    • Copies of child's legals
    • Originals of child's legals, with note and SASE envelope requesting they be returned
    • Copy of child report
    • Copy of child photos
    • Copy of most recent 1040 tax form
    • Copy of I-864
    • Copy of I-864A
    • Letter with visa cable instructions
    • Fedex to US-CIS San Francisco $25

    Meanwhile, the Korean agency works away:

    • Our application is translated
    • Korean agency applies for Emigration Permit with Korean Ministry of Health and Welfare
    • Ministry approves Emigration Permit (aka "EP")
    • Agency gets I-171 (I-600 approval) cable from US Embassy in Seoul
    • Baby tested for Hepatitis B & HIV
    • Visa physical for baby
    • Submit application for baby's IR-4 Visa

    Resubmit our I-600 visa petition after US-CIS screws up (2/9/2007)

    Buy baby gear (3/17/07)

    Baby CPR & safety class (2/17/07)

    Line up a regular pediatrician (3/5/07)

    Line up a pediatric cardiologist (3/14/07)

    Investigate childcare options (3/17/07)

    Line up Daycare (5/25/07)

    Get on preschool waiting list (1/5/07)

    Setup nursery(3/19/07)

    Get life insurance for both

    Write wills with statements of guardianship wishes (both)

    Set up trust

    S: Get pre-approval family leave with HR (1/24/2007)

    Buy gifts for foster family, Korean agency staff (3/16/07)

    Make travel arrangements to Korea ($185 plus 240,000 frequent flyer miles) (3/13/07)

    Wrap-up job for a 15-week leave (3/12/07-3/16/07)

    Finalize leave plans with HR (3/15/07)

    Travel to Korea (3/19/07 - 3/25/07)

    • Meet both foster mothers (3/21/07, 3/22/07, 3/23/07)
    • In-Korea pre-flight medical exam (3/22/07)
    • Go to US Embassy in Seoul to process Class-B Waiver (acceptance of medical condition) 3/22/07
    • Get the final Visa paperwork (3/22/07)
    • Take custody of child! (3/23/07)
    • Long plane ride back to USA (3/25/07)

    USA Medical Evaluations

    • Add baby to my health insurance (3/28/07)
    • Evaluation by regular pediatrician (3/30/07)
    • US immunizations (3/30/07)
    • Evaluation by pediatric cardiologist (4/18/07)
    Receive Placement Confirmation Notice from Agency (3/28/06)

    Receive baby's Green Card in mail (4/16/07)

    Get social security number under baby's Korean Name as permanent resident (4/27/07)

    Receive post-placement packet in mail from Agency(4/15/07)

    Post-placement visits from social worker: (9/12/07)

    • Visit #1 (4/28/07)
    • Visit #2 (6/30/07)
    • Visit #3 (7/26/07)
    • Visit #4 (9/12/07)

    Create and file child "progress reports" with 8-18 photos each, for Korean agency and government, and a letter with photos for foster family (9/12/07)

    • 1-month progress report (4/28/07)
    • 3-month progress report (6/30/07)
    • 4-month progress report (7/26/07)
    • 6-month progress report (9/12/07)

    File US Physician's Examination Report with Agency (4/17/07)

    File Adoption Finalization Paperwork in our county in California (5/1/07) ($20)

    • Form ADOPT-200 (Adoption Request) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-210 (Adoption Agreement) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-215 (Adoption Order) (5/1/07)
    • Form ADOPT-230 (Adoption Expenses) (5/1/07)

    RE-File Finalization Paperwork the State changed in July '07 (ARGH!) (11/13/07)

    • Form ADOPT-210 (Adoption Agreement) (11/13/07)
    • Form ADOPT-215 (Adoption Order) (11/3/07)

    Finalize Adoption in County Court

    • Receive "Consent to Adoption" from agency (11/2/07)
    • Schedule court hearing (coming in December '07!)
    • Adoption finalization court hearing (Munchkin is now a US citizen, and his American name is now his legal name!)
    • Have a HUGE Party to celebrate!
    • Send agency/Korea copy of child's adoption decree (child is no longer considered a Korean citizen)
    • Send adoption announcements

    Secure proof of US citizenship for child:

    • Complete & file N-600 with US-CIS, pay fee
    • Receive Certificate of Citizenship
    • File passport application
    • Receive passport
    • Apply to SSA to get status changed from resident alien to citizen, SS# name changed (passport is proof)

    Start the process all over again for kid #2!